you ever just want to hold them in your arms and tell them everything will be okay
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‘your parents just want what’s best for you’ that is objectively not true for a lot of people, sometimes they want what’s best for them or what looks the best to other people, or what they think is best for you is based on outdated, backwards and messed up values & beliefs. even if their intentions aren’t bad doesn’t mean they even remotely know what’s good for you
also sometimes their intentions are bad but people are remarkably resistant to that idea
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things i have seen/experienced working in a toy store:
• a customer asking me if boys like coloring
• a customer telling her daughter she can’t give out ice cream stickers for party favors because there will be boys there
• an older couple laughing about how there’s a pink toy sword because a boy would never play with a pink toy sword (because i guess boys can’t like pink and girls don’t play with toy swords. also it wasn’t even pink it was red lol)
• a customer refusing to buy a snail robot kit for his nephew because it was “too cute for a boy”
• a customer sharply reminding me she was buying a gift for a boy when i suggested play food
• a customer telling her daughter she needed to pick a different birthday card for her friend because the one she chose had a pink envelope (her friend was a boy)
• a customer asking what a boy would like for valentine’s day instead of the stuffed dogs she was getting for the girls
• a customer getting upset when my coworker used blue ribbon on a gift bag because the present was for a girl
• a customer saying a toy guitar was “too girly” for her grandson, based only on the fact that the box had a picture of a girl playing with it (the guitar was red with yellow music notes)
but yeah, trans people have some real weird ideas about gender
I worked at a generic clothing store. We sold plain T-shirts and hoodies for school kids who have dress codes. Every day I’d hear the most arbitrary, contradictory gender takes from parents.
Purple is a good color for boys, but lavender is too girly, but teal is fine for boys to wear, but no it’s not because it’s too light, but girls can’t wear teal because it’s a shade of blue and blue is for boys, but girls can’t wear red shirts because it’s a strong masculine color, but boys can’t wear red because in the wrong lighting it can look like pink, but yellow is a girls color— On and on and on, every single day.
Each parent would waltz in with their child and berate me for daring to offer a colorful shirt to their child because “it’s not for girls/boys”. And even though they contradicted each other on just about everything, they all stated their opinions as absolute truths that everyone knows and agrees with.
Cis people are weird as fuck about gender.
I work in a bakery and get asked for masculine cakes all the time.
I don’t fucking know what that means. It’s a cake. Eat it.
We’ve also had parents literally tell us they don’t want any pink on their son’s cake because they don’t want him to be gay.
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